Hold your horses, yep sometimes you need to do just that!
Certainly we all have the same twenty four hours in a day and we all often feel pulled in so many different directions at times. The challenge with that is, that when you end up spreading yourself so thin having said yes too many times to too many people or too many projects you end up way off course.
You become overwhelmed, out of focus and adrift. Sailing further and further away from YOUR mission and purpose and of course all with goodwill and with good intent of helping others. Trying to be a Jack of all trades and master of none. Leaves you lost.
So what do you do?
How do you refocus, gain more control over your time and rein back in YOUR focus?
How do you turn away from all the distractions and focus on what matters most?
Here are three simple practices I think you’ll find helpful to getting refocused:
Clarity – Being crystal clear, a flawless diamond about what matters most to you is vitally important if you are going to direct your time and energy and resources to doing what is meaningful. Knowing what your vision or mission is, is key. Having clarity around that is essential. Take a moment and write down your mission and next…consider your current actions and behaviors. Do your actions and behaviors align with your mission. Are you making progress in the direction you want or are you perhaps off course? If you find yourself adrift then the time is now to pull back, to rein in your focus and determine what really matters most.
NO – Saying no can be very difficult for a lot of people. Women especially as nurturers and caregivers tend to struggle with this a lot. Being crystal clear on your mission will help you to say no, to the things that do not serve your purpose. Their is strength in saying no and by saying no to lots of other things you are freeing yourself to yes to the things that matter most. To the things that are relevant to your mission. Practice saying NO more often. Establish your boundaries and be OK with saying NO.
Ball – Keep your eye on the ball. Imagine playing or being at a tennis match. You never take your eye off the ball even if you are enjoying strawberries and champagne at Wimbledon. Making progress on one or two main tasks, projects or activities is essential and making progress on those things only that move the needle, that help you to move forward and closer to your mission is where your time, energy and focus needs to be. Keeping the main the thing/s the main thing. Keep your eye on the ball!
Decide today that you want to gain more control over your time and be clear, determine your mission, keep your eye on the ball and rein in your focus.
Janet I Mueller is the CEO of J Mueller Group. She passionately serves and helps her clients and audiences to unlock and achieve their full potential, to raise their self-esteem through personal growth and leadership development. Helping leaders to become excellent leaders through practice and philosophy of servant leadership. Janet is a mom, educator, executive coach, speaker and published author. Coming soon, her new book “The Blossoming – A Leader’s Guide 10 Keys To Unlocking Your Blooming Potential”. Author of “A Champion’s Guide To Thriving Beyond Breast Cancer” Janet is an advocate for women and girls and member of RAINN the largest national anti sexual assault organization. She is hired to speak on personal growth, leadership development and self-esteem.