How To Have A Winning Attitude

winnerSuch a great question, one I am often asked.

I think for girls in particular, we have to do all we can to nurture their self-esteem, their confidence and courage! Winning is important and having fun along the way is too!

How to have a winning attitude?

A winning attitude, looks like this. It has three essential elements:

1) Vision

2) Passion

3) Strength

A few words of encouragement I like to give our daughter before her horse competitions in-particular: “have FUN, do your BEST and AIM to win”. We go through a simple visualization exercise before her competition, and some deep breathing work to help her relax. Some degree of nerves, butterflies are great for performance!  A simple exercise anyone can duplicate and work with, making it applicable to your individual situation.


 Visualize yourself winning, see yourself in your imagination sitting on the horse with beautiful posture, smiling having fun, focused and confident, seeing you and your horse as a winning team earning, winning ribbons, feeling confident and proud of your success. Feeling and breathing in the satisfaction of hard work paying off. 

We can adapt this exercise and use it for things like: taking exams, stage performances, competitions, sporting activities etc.


Helping our children to see what IS possible for themselves is key. Nurturing their passions and dreams in life is important. Often the things that they enjoy the most the activities that bring them the most joy, and feelings of happiness are things they are good at. A natural gift, a talent, a strength. Helping our children to build on their strengths IS important. As parents, our job is to nurture and guide and help our children to flourish in their area’s of their passion.


In order to maintain a winning attitude, as parents we must do all we can to help build up our children, there will always be negative influences in the world and critics, and even more so, the more any of us succeed, unfortunately there are some who have a hard time seeing other people succeed, it shines a light on their own insecurities of what they have been unable to do or succeed at. Therefore it takes strength, to stand out, to advance and march on in the face of our dreams and helping our children to do this despite any negative influences is a positive force, for developing strength of character.

Lastly, belief. Believing in yourself is key to living your dreams and passions in life. I believe it’s important that we teach our children ownership and responsibility and the value of earning the things they want in life.

What do you think it takes to have a winning attitude? How does your winning attitude in life serve you and those around you?

Janet I Mueller is the CEO of J Mueller Group. She passionately serves and helps her clients and audiences to unlock and achieve their full potential, raise their self-esteem through personal growth and leadership development. Helping leaders to become excellent leaders through practice and philosophy of servant leadership. Janet is a mom, educator, executive coach, speaker and published author. Coming soon, her new book “The Blossoming – A Leader’s Guide 10 Keys To Unlocking Your Blooming Potential”. Author of “A Champion’s Guide To Thriving Beyond Breast Cancer”Janet is an advocate for women and girls and member of RAINN the largest national anti sexual assault organization. She is hired to speak on personal growth, leadership development and self-esteem.

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