How do we help to improve their self-esteem?
Why do so many of us women and girls experience challenges with self-esteem?
What can we do about it?
Certainly we know, as women and for our girls we a ALL need encouragement, most of education is just that, it’s encouragement. And we know that when our self-esteem is intact, in a healthy place, we are much more likely be bold, to be courageous, to speak up, to say what we think and feel and to take on our grandest and even most challenging of goals and ambitions in life. To actually attempt the things we really want to and most care about. The things that are important to each of us.
We all want to experience progress in life and to think, sense and feel that we are making headway, we are succeeding and achieving our goals and dreams. So what can we do? How can we build upon and boost our self-esteem as women and help our girls too?
Let’s take a look at some idea’s below:
Here are 4 simple idea’s for you to consider and do and to encourage our girls to do also:
One of the fastest ways to boost your self-esteem is to take an honest hard look at your key strengths. What are you good at? What do you do well and what do other people commend you for? Often what you are good at or excel at is a strength. Consider, what is it that comes easy and natural to you? Where do you feel a sense of flow, as though time passes quickly whilst doing a particular project or activity? Stretch yourself and make a list of your core 25 strengths and reflect upon those. Next, where might you become even stronger still? What could you do to learn more, to expand upon these talents? Create and set up a learning plan to help you deepen your strengths even further, helping you to acquire more knowledge and expertise and mastery. This will also boost your self-esteem.
If you consider yourself highly ambitious, as many of us do. It’s important to reward yourself, give yourself a pat on the back for each milestone you achieve on your way towards your greatest of ambitions. Sometimes the road can seem long and treacherous, especially if your ambitions are so grand, they may feel as though they are way off in the distance, hard to envision or hard to grasp. So by rewarding yourself with each step, with each milestone you conquer along the way you will be raising your self-esteem, remaining enthusiastic, energized and not feeling defeated by such a big goal out in the far distance.
Looking to our past is helpful, in the sense that we can see where we have succeeded before. We can see what we have accomplished and where we have reached our goals previously. It tells us, that we are capable of doing the same again. As you think about your past, where do you think, sense and feel that you have you experienced success? In what areas have you succeeded? It’s helpful to keep an inventory of these magical moments. Create a portfolio a visual photograph album of your wins and make a list of all your past accomplishments, writing these down in a keepsake, journal.
4. High Bar
Certainly having high expectations for yourself IS important. Excellence is therefore a great aim. Comparing yourself to other people is good if for the purpose of seeing where you can elevate and improve, to have a higher standard for yourself. To compare to the degree of not feeling good enough is not the goal. Striving to be your best is. Having role models and people to look up to is great as long as you compare and contrast to the point that you feel demoralized, as though you could never live up-to their standard ever.
As you take on these 4 idea’s, be mindful as to what you notice, what you discover about yourself and how these treasures of self-awareness can help YOU and our girls keep moving forward and boosting all of our self-esteem.
Let us know, what jewels you find and share with us what you consider to be some of your key strengths:
Janet I Mueller is the CEO of J Mueller Group. She passionately serves and helps her clients and audiences to unlock and achieve their full potential, raise their self-esteem through personal growth and leadership development. Helping leaders to become excellent leaders through practice and philosophy of servant leadership. Janet is a mom, educator, executive coach, speaker and published author. Coming soon, her new book “The Blossoming – A Leader’s Guide 10 Keys To Unlocking Your Blooming Potential”. Author of “A Champion’s Guide To Thriving Beyond Breast Cancer”Janet is an advocate for women and girls and member of RAINN the largest national anti sexual assault organization. She is hired to speak on personal growth, leadership development and self-esteem.
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